Don’t make your sh*t my sh*t….

Seriously….. don’t!!!

There’s one thing I can’t handle in my life and that’s other peoples ‘shit’ and by ‘shit’ i mean shit talking.  Now I’m not saying it’s bad to vent about a situation or a person or what ever, but as long as you understand you have a role to play in it and you look for the lessons learned I’m game.55397266

What I can’t handle is when venting turns into team building…. as in I don’t like this person you shouldn’t either.  They hurt me you should hate them for that. They screwed me so they’re going to screw you too.

Guess what….. that’s your shit….. don’t make it mine.  I will listen and support and love on you but I will not carry your shit.  Everyone’s relationships with other people is just that….THEIR relationships.  What one person does to you doesn’t mean they will do to others and vice versa.  What someone does to me does not mean they’ll do it to you.

So I ask….no rather beg…. ‘don’t make your shit my shit’  ….. I have enough of my own.


I know why I am Single

One thing that I try to do on a weekly basis is reflect inward.  It’s very easy to point your finger outward and blame others for why things are the way they are, but at the end of the day the reason my life is the way it is falls 100% on me.

I often think I have a ton to offer when it comes to dating, successfully running two businesses, own my own home, fairly attractive (at least in my own mind lol), free spirited, etc etc etcsingle

and yet at the end of the day I come home to the girls ( my dogs) and that’s it.  Of course it would be great to have someone to help carry the load and the burden of life with me, but why hasn’t it happened?  1 of two reasons…..

1- I pick ‘projects’ people that are drawn to me because of my confidence and success, lack it themselves, and try to gain it by dating me.  And when it comes to walking side by side with me it doesnt work because I have to constantly build them up leaving me with little to nothing left at the end of the day because I’ve been working on ‘the project’

2- my main reason….. I don’t let others close…. why? When you work in a consumer business, like a gym, people coming and going is norm.  I love people and enjoy them while they’re in my life knowing they could be gone at any moment.  As a result of doing this for 5 years I find it difficult to let people I’m dating truly close because they’re going to be gone at some point.

It’s hard to admit that, because it sounds really sad and lonely, but it’s true.  I am strong on my own and don’t ‘need’ to be in a  relationship to be happy, but man would it be nice to have someone in my life that ‘got it’ (what it means to own a business and work your ass off) and can take you away from all the stresses of the world.  I’ll know he’s worth it when he’s willing to break down the castle Ive built around myself.  And until then I’ll do me and work on being the change I want to see in the world.


Join me on my journey to 145


What is my journey to 145?  

My journey to weigh and press 145lbs AT THE SAME TIME!  Why?  Because I do the best when I have a goal I am looking to achieve.  Typically I’ll have a body weight goal or a lifting goal, but this time I decided I would combine two goals into one…. and to add a whole additional layer of achievement….  I also want to get back up to 145 members.

The best of all three worlds; my health, my strength and my business.

One of the hardest things to do when you own your own business is stay motivated, stay hungry and stay content.  Content doesn’t even exist in my world.  I’m always striving to improve, which is why I am as successful as I am.

Any who….. today is day one on my journey to 145

145 body weight

145 strict press

145 members

BOOM!!!!!!  What are you going to be striving for?  Share with me and lets make it happen


Through the eyes of a child……

To say yesterday truly moved me would be an understatement.  Hours later and thousands of burpees completed and $1000.00 dollars later our bi-annual burpee mile was completed.

Let me back up to the beginning…… a least twice a year Coca CrossFit looks to host a fundraiser for a local cause.  This year brought a family touched by autism into my world and with that led us to Evan.  A 6 year old from Lorain diagnosed with Autism that has been approved for a service dog.  A service dog that also has a hefty sticker price.20150704_092201 20150704_091839_resized

That’s when it hit me….. burpee mile for Evan….. burpees for Evan!  So we began promoting the idea and putting the ducks in a row to make it a reality.  July 4th ….9am…  it all became  reality. 35 people had gathered to tackle a Burpee Mile and they did it all in honor of Evan.

Let me tell you about Evan…… the happiest 6 year old I’ve ever met.  With every introduction comes a hug.  Such a simple human jester that breaks dow peoples guarded personal space.  From there comes a joyful smile…. one that is truly full of joy.  followed quickly by running or singing or dancing.

Through his eyes there was no autism.  There was no financial burden.  There was no ‘what do others think’  Just joy, happiness, laughter and friends.  20150704_103344

Through the eyes of a child….. this child….. I was holy reminded of what truly matters in this world.  It’s easy to get caught in the stress of a to-do list.  Financials.  Managing drama.  Calendars…. and on an on on that we lose this simplicity of what’s truly important.  I will work everyday to see the world though the eyes of a child……For in those last 20 buprees that were made a fun game of ‘how far can you jump’ laughing and jumping nothing else mattered.  Just being in that moment.

What to learn more about Evan and make a donation: Visit Evan’s Dreamfund page here


Public Speaking….don’t mind if I do…

After giving two presentations in the last few months and being asked to do some more I am officially launching a public speaking platform.  Being 33…. 5 years into owning Coca CrossFit….. 1 year into owning I Am Stronger…. I have learned A TON about life, people, and swimming with the sharks.

Layer on what I’ve learned being  CrossFit Games athlete that has faced not one…. not two…. but 3 major injuries that certainly put a damper on my competition career but led me to a thriving business career and the wealth of what I have to share with the world is over flowing.

I will speak at schools….. corporations….. networking groups….. your CrossFit affiliate….. you name it i’ll tell my story.

Mariane williams said it the best…… ‘We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?’

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What being a CrossFitter says to the world about you…..

Over the last 8 years the landscape of CrossFit has changed tremendously.  When I started there were no boxes in Cleveland…. there was a weekly workout under a bridge in a park.  Seriously.  We thought we got a HUGE upgrade when we started doing workouts in the coaches driveway with him.crossfit

Fast forward 8 years and CrossFit is practically a house hold word. (def an over exaggeration, but not by much).  When someone asks ‘what do you do’ in regards to working out and you respond with ‘I CrossFit’ it immediately says something to the world about you.

  • It  says you’re  up for a challenge
  • Its says you’re committed to improving yourself
  • It says you’re a believer in communities
  • It says you’re not afraid to roll up your sleeves and do wokr
  • Its says you’re a little twisted
  • But above all else…. those that are fearful to try CrossFit are often impressed an inspired…..

Now image you go to one of the many ‘faux’ CrossFit gyms…… gyms that have Crossfit coaches but don’t call themselves CrossFit….. when someone asks what you do… and you have to answer ‘I do CrossFit LIKE’ workouts that says something to you as well.  Seriously….. try it your self….. now….even in your head:

Question: What do yo do for a workout?

Answer : I CROSSFIT!  (nut said)

Answer:  I do CrossFit like wrokouts…. they’re basically CrossFit we just don’t call it that….

if you tell you you don’t feel a difference….. you’re lying….. So if you’re at a CrossFit like gym…. I say find a CrossFit gym near you…. pay the money…. it’s well worth it (if its a credible coach)  Always look at their resume before pulling the trigger. After all your trusting this person with your safety.

Now lets all say proudly……I CROSSFIT!


Living the ‘shed life’

After almost 5 years of running Coca CrossFit, and within the last year starting I Am Stronger, the amount of time I spend working has increased, which one might not have thought possible.

I have tried it all….. working at the gym…. working at coffee shops…. working at home…. and I’ve never really found a rhythm until now.  The house I bought in the fall is a basic split level, 3 bedroom, but the back yard is compound to say the least.  It’s almost 3/4 of an acre fenced in with a hot tub, fire pit, basketball court and an out building aka a shed with power.

Until 2 months ago it was a storage unit where I just threw stuff in I didn’t want in my house and I walked away.  Then I saw an ad on Facebook….. ‘she-shed’….. a what?  That’s right…. a she-shed.  It’s much along the lines of a Man Cave, but for a woman.  A private space designed just for her.  And I got to thinking….. I have a great shed that could be used for a ‘she-shed’ AND a home office.

I began cleaning out all the junk and what was once a useless structure has now become my home office and personal oasis.  1,400 square ft of home and my favorite place is my 200 square foot home office. It’s peaceful, quite, away from the gym and my house so I can focus on being creative and working and enjoying my dogs.

It’s allowed me to create separation in my life.  When I’m at the gym I train and coach.  When I’m at home I do laundry and dishes.  When I’m at the office I’m working.  And yes… there’s even a second desk if anyone needed a tranquil place to work and this past weekend I added a pool so I can even take a relaxing float as a ‘smoke break’

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My typical day

I often get asked what a typical day in my life looks like and I don’t really think I have a typical day so I’ll give you an example of an average day;
4:15am – wake up
4:20am – let out dogs
4:30am – pack snack/lunch/bag for the day
4:50am – open gym
5:00am – coffee and 1st snack
5:00am-9:00am – COACH COACH COACH
8:00am – breakfast
9:00-11:00am – Conjugate :30 (my workout)
11:30am-1:00pm – I Am Stronger investor meeting
1:30-3:00pm – Business Coach meeting
3:00-3:30pm- Kids class preparation
3:30-4:15pm – return phone calls/emails
4:30-5:30 – admin meeting
5:30-6:00pm – pre-k class (3-5)
6:00-6:30pm – kids class (6-10)
6:30-7:00pm – last minute admin work
7:00-9:00pm – social hour/drinks
10:00pm -CRASH HARD……..
Next am….rinse and repeat

This is not everyday, but it’s a pretty typical day. We’re all given the same 24 hours and how we choose to use those hours will determine our success or failure. I could sit back and hope I’m successful or I can get in the trenches and make it happen.

I go back and forth on balance, but being single having no kids I find that I get so much joy filing my days with work. I could relax and read books, hike with the pups, nap etc. And don’t get me wrong… some days I do….but those things while relaxing don’t fuel my soul. I hustle and work and when I need a break I take it. But my day in and day out grind fulfills me and I see nothing wrong with keep my pace.

It’s definitely not for everyone, but for me, where I’m at right now in y life…. it works!


Different but best friends…..

If you would have told me 2 years ago that my best friend was going to the pastors wife I would have laughed in your face…. hell I might laugh in your face now…. but it’s true.25323-Different-But-Best-Friends

Over the last two years I have learned more about friendship and love than I ever thought possible.  I was going through a rough breakup and feeling like a train wreck (and not hiding it very well), and there was Kasey Reis….. ‘can I read you something?’ and out came the bible.

Of course I would roll my eyes but I listened…….. and from that moment I knew there was something about this woman.  She knew I had ‘broken up with church’ and yet loved on me the way she knew, through god.  She would finish her passage of the day and then talk about how it related to what I was going through.  Talk about an unconventional cool down from the workout that day.

Over the next year we would train together everyday, and one thing never changed…… we were always honest with each other.  Good….bad….indifferent….. but always honest.  And guess what happened, we would always listen through the tears and the hurt and come out on the other side.  Both sides would listen and realize while we don’t see the issue or the problem or the situation the same we loved and resected each other enough to say ‘I love you’ afterwards.

Fast forward two years and she’s truly one of my best friends.  While we don’t train daily with each other we are there for each other no matter what.  We’re truly ride or die.  And I’ve learned that if the girl that broke up with church can be best friends with the pastors wife…… anyone can forgive and love anyone…… we’re the two ends of the spectrum with religion but we’re able to see our soul and character are the same.  Proving two people CAN be opposite and yet the same….. if they’re willing to dig through the bullshit, set aside egos and really listen and just love.


Paying it forward…. my greatest gift…

4 1/2 years into running  my CrossFit affiliate, Coca CrossFit I have learned that my greatest gift is my ability to pay it forward.  Working my business coach has really put my abilities and what I have to offer into perspective.  Yes I feel like I have so much to learn, but in that process I’ve overlooked how much I already know.pay-it-forward

That comes through when I work with individuals new to the coaching game, and those that want to coach full time.  The ability to make a full time living coaching is easy….. if you love it….. and have the confidence to sell yourself.  I’ve learned that because I had to.  I quit my job and my only choice was to figure out how to make money coaching.

I’ve recently had the pleasure of working with two of my coaches that want to make a living coaching.  I’ve opened up the behind the scenes of the chaotic world I live in.  I want them to get a full view of what I do.  It’s hard on the outside to know what you’re really getting into.  So those that really want to learn have an open door policy to any and everything, outside of my financials.  If there’s one thing every business coach and owner will tell you is the only person that deals with your financials are you and your accountant.

Empowering the next generations of coaches is something that really excites me.  Watching them grow, seeing the light bulb of ideas go and their confidence expanding.  Coaching the next generation is just as exciting as coaching new athletes.